26 Nov Gratitude For Lumpy Gravy
You’re probably getting lots of emails relating to giving thanks this week — doesn’t everyone already know to give thanks at Thanksgiving? Anyway, I read a unique and important message in the very first lines of Joshua Becker’s “Becoming Minimalist” blog yesterday. It took the idea of thanks in a brilliant new direction.
The brilliance was in this zinger:
“Gratitude causes us to no longer desire a different life.”
The truth is, I often desire a different life — one with a cat that doesn’t meow incessantly for food, more polite teenagers, a cleaner car, instantly organized drawers, immortal parents, world peace and the like. Now, don’t think I want to trade in my family or anything, but I have thoughts of how things could be better. Often it’s small things, but they are there nonetheless, pulling me out of the moment.
When I read Becker’s line, I viscerally felt perfection — not Martha Stewart “perfection,” but contentment in the middle of my imperfect life. It caused me to turn my lens inward and shift my perspective.
It caused me to just be happy and content.
Saying thanks out loud is one thing, but this message is about acknowledging how perfect life is, and how we don’t need anything to be different. It’s not so much about gratitude for what we have or don’t, but for the moment in all its completeness.
Do you fantasize about an alternate life, your Life 2.0? I think this is normal and it does get us out in the world, creating. If you’ve been following my blog, you’ve read about how to have better conversations: it’s all about changing things. So how do we bask in the perfection of our imperfect lives and also make improvements?
It’s simple: we allow both ends of the spectrum to exist.
I do think our culture programs us to focus more on improving, but thankfully we have people like Joshua to remind us of the other end of the spectrum.
I wish you and yours the bestest Thanksgiving.
Now, I gotta go feed the cat…
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P.S. I didn’t even get a chance to comment on the rest of Joshua’s blog, but it provides a great question to ask yourself. You can find his blog HERE
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