14 Dec Happy Hectic Holidays!
Happy hectic holidays, Revolutionary, Evolutionary moms and dads! ’Tis the season to be busy. Decorating, shopping, crafting, baking, memory making, relative visiting, donating, parenting, tree trimming, meal serving, wrapping and on and on…
Our kids are in the milieu of this stress right along with us. Being dragged through the mall, falling asleep at the Nutcracker (and her seat cost $50 bucks!) and enduring the tour of relatives they barely know.
Perhaps there will be meltdowns. And not only from the kids…
We try to avoid them by pouring another red cup of coffee into our bodies to get through another day of shopping. That works for a while, but how long can you run on caffeine fumes?
I don’t know about you but I have had many moments during holiday seasons of exhaustion and feeling stressed and unfulfilled. Magnified by the relentless positivity that a season of joy and light is SUPPOSED to be all about.
And, yes, there are lots of blogs that remind us to do self-care over the holidays. But how do we actually do this?
How do you take care of your health and your family’s under all that pressure?
I think it boils down to one question I have shared with you before:
What does my body need right now?
Asking this question gives you a way to cut through all the Kwanzaa lights and get to what you are really experiencing and needing in the moment.
The body doesn’t lie. It gives clear answers when asked.
It’s up to us to do the asking. And to teach our kids to do the same.
As I ask myself right now what my body needs, the answer comes through clearly: exercise. I worked a full day at my practice yesterday and I am sitting here writing this morning. Now my body needs some movement. Simple. Clear.
Identifying my need helps me prioritize. And my priorities are mine, not yours. You won’t get your needs met by comparing yourself to an ideal of the perfect holiday.
So I invite you to prioritize your holiday season based on what you want to feel in your body. Forget the epic holiday gathering with every detail being perfect — think yummy food, warm fire and a timetable that actually works.
Asking this question of our kids also brings their needs into focus. Then we are less likely to jam our version of Happy Hannukah down their throats.
Ask your kids what their bodies need and listen to the answers.
And yes, the answer may be, “My body needs a candy cane.” So perhaps that’s a very sweet moment where your child has dessert before dinner. When you allow them to answer and honor their truth instead of arguing about all the junk they’re putting in their body, you’re supporting their self-knowledge (even if it’s thrown off-balance by the overload of available treats).
When asked, they may also say they want a story by the tree or to skip the holiday caroling because they are tired. I know that in reality all requests cannot be accommodated but it gives you information about where they’re at.
You see, the best questions bring us to presence. The real current moment, not the imagined ideal.
You are still going to have a wonderful holiday even if you don’t check every single box.
Even in the midst of the bustle — especially in the bustle — take the time for some conscious conversation in your family. Pause to ask and listen; you’ll create positive health esteem (a great and lasting gift for your kids, by the way!).
So feel free to skip Aunt Ethel’s bake-a-thon or the boring Christmas play and put your feet up and have a glass of wine by the tree with your sweetie while the kids wrestle with the dog.
If that’s what your bodies need.
And guess what? There is nothing else this blog requires you to do except go out and enjoy your season.