03 May Quantum Kids: Are Your Kids Waves or Particles?
I am going to assume that as a Revolutionary, Evolutionary parent, you embrace the idea that life is evolving. From simple to complex, over time, the universe is learning and growing. Just like the fertilized egg that has grown into your lovable kindergartener with chubby cheeks — life is on the move.
I love taking the wisdom from different disciplines and tying them together, so today we are gonna talk quantum physics.
DO NOT BE FRIGHTENED. Take a sip of your morning tea or coffee and let’s discuss how your thought-forms affect your kids via quantum physics.
Now, the physics I studied in college was classical physics (I have a minor in physics) and was based on materialism. Much of traditional science is still based on classical material science, the idea that the universe can be explained by particle physics — the theory that all of life and energy is matter-based (molecules with mass, electrons, etc.). Stuff that can be measured, felt and seen.
The 20th century gave us the gift of Quantum Physics, which has proven matter can shift between particle and wave. And nowadays, physicists are writing books about the nature of life, since we understand that much of the universe we cannot see still exists (in non-material forms).
When a particle moves into a wave it leaves the world of matter and extends outward into space. It cannot be seen but it can be perceived. Think of a wave as a pattern of information. A particle can then jump out of that wave like a fish out of the ocean and manifest into physical matter. It can go back and forth between particle and wave.
The evidence points to the fact that all matter first begins as that pattern of information, a wave. A cosmic thoughtform.
A thought is a wave — the cake you want to bake, the family vacation you are planning, the garden you wish to install. They are thoughts first — a wave of thoughts, actually.
So, you ask, how does this relate to my kids?
It relates to how YOU relate to your kids. The thoughts you think about your kids are creative: they create a reality. They are setting the stage for expression or repression. The ways you describe your kids to themselves or to others helps create a personality and set of behaviors. Your words are setting a pattern of information into the universe. Do you want to send a positive and open wave or closed and fixed one?
The vibration of how you view and speak about your child sets a wave in motion. If your child is “difficult” or “easy” around a particular issue (like sleep or food), that identity can stick — even if it’s based on a short period of time.
You didn’t decide they’d need diapers or drink breast milk their whole life just because they did when they were a baby, did you? Why should those other identities stick?
I urge you to hold your kids with open, proactive language. If the label is negative or limiting (e.g., “disorganized”) then they feel and hear that you are expecting them to live into this. The particle that will jump out of that disorganized wave is the kid who fulfills that expectation and never cleans up their room.
Maybe as a child your parents labeled you. You might have been the pretty one, the smart one, the clown, the creative one, the passive one. How useful have those labels been throughout your life? How many have you struggled to shed? Imagine if your parents had empowered you with self-definition, spending more time inquiring into how you saw yourself. Imagine how much money and time you would have saved on therapy.
I recommend that you avoid labeling and instead send a wave of possibility into your family.
Keep an open mind about what is true and use open-ended vocabulary. Note a child’s creativity instead of defining them as a “great painter” on the basis of their fingerpainting. If you think you know something about who and how they are, try asking how they see themselves or want to be seen. When you limit the path of the particle by defining it, you may be setting up an internal, ongoing struggle in your kid, creating expectations (“I’m the wild kid!”) they then have to worry about fulfilling.
Hold the space of being open to who they will develop into in the future. Make sure to pay attention to and be intentional about the kid you want to “bake”, the experiences you want your family to have on vacation, the garden of ideas you wish to grow in your child.
Let the fish that jumps out of the ocean jump out of the universe of possibility (and not into the net of your thoughtforms). You’ll be amazed at what emerges — a particle of light.
And for a little comedic relief from the world of quantum physics and to reinforce that my ideas in my blog post could be taken too far (way too far) — enjoy this Video link.
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