27 Feb You Are The Sky: My Personal Story
You may wonder about my name, Heidi Skye. “Is that your middle name?” “Is that a chosen name?” I was not born with the name Skye anywhere in my moniker. The truth is it chose me.
If you’ve been hanging with the blog, you know that it focuses on renaming and reframing situations and ideas so you can empower your kids and yourself. For example, instead of saying, “You are sick,” I prefer, “You are processing.” It is more informative and holds the truth that the body cycles through any illness.
I have always been that kind of a big thinker. The bird’s eye view of the world inspires me. Thus, it is interesting that my name actually evolved to demonstrate my vision.
This is a very personal story. It begins years ago and, even though I don’t usually write about myself (I tell people my life just isn’t that interesting), I’d like to share it with you because of its impact on my perspective.
I’ve used my maiden name, Keller, all my life. I’ve published scientific papers under this name. I’ve achieved a fair amount of notoriety in my profession with this name. It resonated with me so strongly that I did not change it when I got married. It was simply my identity.
When my father told me that his mom, Joan Keller, was one of the first American women to raft the Amazon River, I loved it even more!
Keller has always been my comfortable companion.
Then one day in my practice a client said she had changed her last name to Claire. It fit her so perfectly and she was (is) so gorgeous and calming. It was the first time I thought, “Hmm, that’s cool, you can chose your own name?!” At that point, it was simply an interesting idea to me.
Years later when the idea of creating a community around a Culture of Wellness arose, I was in a writing frenzy, composing and constructing ideas all the time. Words were pouring from me and I truly felt like much of my material was coming through me, not from me. Every time I wrote something and signed my name to it — an article, blog post or even just in my journal — suddenly my name began to feel weird. It was as if I was looking at someone else’s name and it did not remind me of myself. My name suddenly felt odd, like a t-shirt from a band I didn’t listen to anymore; it didn’t fit.
This, however, presented a problem: What would my new name be? I began searching. I looked online. I listened to everyone’s name. I kept thinking I would change my first name to something cool and interesting and probably very California-y. Harper, Belle, Sage… I tried them all on and none of them fit. Eventually the name game became so tedious that I put it on the back burner.
Then, three years ago, I was listening to a meditation, as I love to do, by Eckhart Tolle. He shows up in the world as a man who is uniquely present in the moment. He uses many analogies around thoughts, instructing us to allow them to pass through our minds and not to attach our emotions to them. This creates space, presence and a crack for the wisdom of the universe to shine through.
In this particular meditation, he invited me to compare my thoughts to clouds. Clouds float through the sky all day long. “Allow your thoughts to move through your mind in the same peaceful, flowing and transient way,” he said in his melodic voice.
“The sky is natural and doesn’t try to be anything other than what it is: spacious.”
I was totally there with him and found myself following along. Then he said, “You are the sky.” I repeated his words to myself: “You are the Sky.” And it was done. My name fell out of the universe into my conscious awareness. What a gift!
I added an “e” to the Sky because I wanted it to hold some awesome feminine energy too! And it doesn’t hurt that my favorite color is blue.
Beyond the decorative aspects of my new name, I truly feel like I’ve reframed myself. And…the reframe is powerful. This applies to parenting too. Shifting even for a moment out of your habitual way of expressing yourself can have a huge impact on your life and your health. When you shift away from “You’re sick” to “You’re cycling,” your energy and attention shifts, and you can focus less on the dis-ease and more on how you’ll handle this part of the cycle.
Like my name reminding me of presence and perspective, your reframe can help you to look at the big picture and create a new way of being. It can simply look like you taking a breath and responding instead of reacting to that “interesting” rash your kid just showed you.
Skye has become my last name and my life’s mantra. Now every day I am reminded that I am the Skye and I am committed to being present. I strive for awareness and non-reaction on a moment to moment basis. I want to shift consciousness in myself, parents and families. And my name has given new meaning to her head is in the clouds.
Want to know my story? Check out the About section to learn more about the education and life experiences that inspired me to start a health revolution.