10 Apr The Fertile Mind of Wellness
“Thoughts are things and the body is the builder.” — Edgar Cayce
It’s spring here in northern California and my lilac is blooming. The days have soft storms and warm winds. I have begun to weed and work on my flower garden. I can envision my garden in full bloom even though right now it is messy, full of dead plants and basically ugly. The vision is there and it makes me happy. And so I work to create it.
This got me thinking the other day after I was working with a woman who has layer and layers of issues and patterns (chronic pain, illness and injury). She has a lot going on in her physical body and yet, the thing that struck me upon our first conversation was that under all the suffering was an attitude that it could all shift. She’s open to her body becoming different and after one session, she has had significant results.
Both of us can see her well in our mind’s eye.
And I notice that kids naturally expect their bodies to get well and heal.
What is the starting point for wellness? You might think it is being healthy, but we really have to start one step back by expecting to be healthy.
That can be a challenge when you or your kids are dealing with a virus or other dis-ease. But even in those circumstances, you can encourage the expectation that your body will return to health, that it is always seeking equilibrium, and that if you want to feel well, you can.
Healthy people, and people who are ready to heal, cultivate an attitude of wellness. If you build the attitude, the wellness can come. I have interacted with so many different people and body types over the course of my 20 years in practice. What stands out to me is that people who can hold a place of possibility for healing are the ones who get the best results. And this is not contingent on the severity of their problem.
The client with mild neck pain who has a strong conversation about how long it’s been going on, how her mom had neck pain, and it’s never gonna go away may be limiting her progress because she lacks the expectation of health.
I work with mindset, not just bodies, as often the mindset has to shift before the body can. It’s not the force of will that creates changes but the field of possibility.
So what are you doing to cultivate the fertile ground of a wellness mindset for yourself and your family?
Here are three ideas to get you started:
1. Let your language and mind focus on the process of healing, not the predicament of being sick.
Even when things don’t look like they’re moving, movement is happening. Using words like healing, processing, cycling, purging or reorganizing affirms that your or your kid’s body is shifting toward balance.
2. At the risk of sounding like a California girl I recommend holding the space for any outcome.
Whenever we tell ourselves a story, the only outcome you can see are the things within that story. Your words define and delineate “reality” because they create the container for what is possible.
For example, “I have chronic headaches.” The only solutions available to you are the ones your mind already relates to headaches. Instead, try saying, “Maybe there’s another possibility I haven’t considered” or “What if it was different?” or the most powerful, “I don’t know what will happen but I am open to letting it breathe.”
3. Bring presence to the situation.
Instead of going down the mental path of endless rumination, let that go and simply notice what is. Use mindfulness techniques of noticing your body sensations without judgement and allowing thoughts to float through your mind like clouds in the sky. Your fevering toddler may cause you to think about the worst case scenario but simply being with her and offering a cold cloth on her head is more healing.
When Edgar Cayce says, “Thoughts are things and the body is the builder,” he is addressing these very issues of mindset and reality. What you create with your thoughts is up to you way more than you might think. I invite you to grow your own garden.